If you are having issues with marriage you are likely to pay more attention to the ending signs rather than indications that it can still be saved.
Joe Beam, Ph.D., the founder, and chair of Marriage Helper says that” There is always that one spouse who wants to save the marriage although some marriages end because all spouses want to be alone,” he also suggests that when there is still someone finding for the marriage then there is a chance of it being renewed. “If you have a personal belief and value system that motivates you to finish what you start-especially if you feel like marriage is a life-long commitment that’s a significant thing can look up.”
Below are a few indications that your marriage can be saved:
YOU ARE AWARE OF YOUR IMPERFECTIONS AS A WIFE
Shifting your perspective can transform your life. This Is what Amy Spencer a happiness expert and author focuses on. She says that every relationship is like physics. There is always an opposite reaction to every action. Therefore it is essential to find out how his behaviors might be affecting your habits. There is a chance of saving your marriage according to what Spencer says. This is by accepting that you’re wrong.
MEMORIES OF HIM MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD
If his scent still makes you feel good then that has a positive impact on your side. Spencer says that if your thoughts still tell you he’s a good one then you need to know whether, in reality, it can be like that as well.
YOU WERE UNFAITHFUL AND THE GRASS WASN’T GREENER
Relationships or marriage usually ends due to infidelity. This is according to the relationship expert April Masini. Unfaithfulness doesn’t mean something is wrong with the person who cheated, but it means something is definitely wrong with the relationship or marriage. Spouses should be able to see unfaithfulness as a relationship problem, this will enable them to work everything out.
FAMILY IS ALWAYS FIRST TO BOTH OF YOU
Before filing a divorce you need to have double thoughts. Spending each day together as a family is the best thing ever. You, therefore, need to ask yourself if going separate ways with your husband will make you happy or sad. If you are happy when doing things together as a family then there’s no need for a divorce. The relationship is worth fighting for.
YOU STILL GO OUT TOGETHER
If you still go out on dates yourselves without the kids that’s good. It means you want to feel that connection the two of you minus the kids. Planning different activities without involving kids are signs of a long-lasting marriage.
YOU ARE FREE TO SHARE YOUR FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS WITH YOUR PARTNER
Despite everything that’s gone on you can still talk to your husband freely. Beam says that “we need to be accepted for who we are.” We should not pretend to be any other person. Our partners shouldn’t judge us or discriminate us. They should accept us just the way we are. By doing these relationships or marriages can be saved.
YOU VIEW YOURSELVES AS ONE
Couples who view themselves as one are likely to have a long-lasting marriage. They can as well view themselves as separate individuals but they have shared identities which makes it easy for them to solve issues and make things work out.
YOU FEEL LIKE MAKING LOVE
When experiencing hard times, there is always no feeling of making love but there is hope if you want to be intimately connected with your partner. Feeling like making love even when you’re trying to work out your relationship means that you feel something for your partner. Your sex life is not affected by your situation, therefore, you can work out everything that’s affecting you.
YOU STILL REMEMBER GOOD TIMES
Memories are worth holding onto especially if they remind you of the good times. When you are struggling with your relationship just look back at the amazing things you did together and try going back to that place and be happy again. Work out everything in your relationship to bring back those good memories.