by Derek Paulson | Jul 18, 2020 | Relationship Help
A useful conversation does not have to begin with a long account of your feelings. You can start with an ordinary moment, a question or one concrete request. If words are difficult, the aim is to make yourself understandable and give the other person room to respond....
by Derek Paulson | Jul 17, 2020 | Relationship Help
Many married people fall in love with somebody other than their spouses. They never intended to hurt their husband or wife, but they can’t deny their feelings. This is among the most difficult emotional situations people will ever face. Their marriage was...
by Derek Paulson | May 29, 2020 | Relationship Help
Repeated messages, unwanted visits or demands to know where you are can be unsettling, especially when they are described as love or concern. You do not need to establish what is happening inside the other person’s mind before taking the behaviour and its effect...
by Derek Paulson | Apr 11, 2020 | Relationship Help
Even though you love someone, it doesn’t necessarily mean you love all things about them, and it doesn’t mean that you have to love them unconditionally. Deals are broken for a reason and you have a right to walk away from someone if they are not treating you right...
by Derek Paulson | Apr 9, 2020 | Relationship Help
Suspecting that a partner is cheating can leave you looking for an explanation in every message, changed plan or unfamiliar detail. A checklist cannot establish what someone has done. Many ordinary behaviours have several possible explanations, and accumulating...
by Derek Paulson | Mar 2, 2020 | Relationship Help
When we think of falling in love, we often have several boxes that need checked to know it’s true. Perhaps we are lucky enough to meet someone who that checks all those boxes, except there is no physical attraction to the person. Most times, we immediately slam on the...
